Valentine’s Day is almost upon us, and I can’t help but realize, like every other area of my life, Valentine’s Day has changed drastically since having children.
Allow me to demonstrate:
BK (before kids):
You get super excited when you glimpse at your calendar (filled with lots of fun, grown up-like events) and notice that Valentine’s Day is coming up! Oh for soothe! (Or something.). You can’t wait to spend the day with your love and relish in how much you enjoy each other’s company. It’s going to be so much fun!
AK (after kids):
Oh hell. Valentine’s Day is like, three days away! You didn’t notice between the school meetings and play dates. But there it is. Did you pick up Valentines yet for the class? How many kids are in the class? Are they doing that this year? Is there a class party you have to show up to? Your kid doesn’t know either. Awesome. Did you discuss any plans with your other half? Are you getting each other anything this year? Why are there holidays? Aren’t regular days enough?
DAYS before, you start the grooming process for the big day. You’re waxing and shaving various areas. You need to make sure you have that certain perfume that drives him crazy. What are you going to wear? Whatever. You’ll get an entirely new outfit. It’s a special occasion after all! You make an appointment for the salon that morning so your mani, pedi, and hair look amazing. You smile to yourself while trying out different make up looks in the mirror and wonder if life could be any sweeter.
Valentine’s Day. Like, the actual day of. Is everyone bathed? Have they at least bathed recently? Did you brush your hair and teeth this morning? Better make sure you do that. You don’t have to shave. Gweneth Paltrow said so.
You’ve picked out the most amazing gift for your other half! It’s wrapped like in belongs in a window display and you are dying, DYING to give it to them. They’re going to be so excited. And you know how great they are at giving gifts too. What is it this year? Diamonds? A new car with a bow on it? Your own ISLAND!? Who knows? You don’t! AH! You love love!
You hand your significant other the generic box of chocolates you remembered to pick up at the last minute. They might have thanked you, but you can’t hear them over the sounds of children asking to try some of YOUR chocolate, even though they definitely got their own. You turn your back for a minute, and that giant gaudy heart you received is filled only with wrappers. Magical.
You’re in the car, listening to Boys II Men, and gazing longingly at each other. Your love surprised you by getting reservation months in advance to some swanky, dark little restaurant that charges illegal organs for a main course. But it’s ok, what else do you have to spend money on? You hold hands across the table, while sharing a dessert and staring into the dark pools of each other’s eyes. This is so great.
You head to whatever chain restaraunt that isn’t completely swamped with people. You still have to wait an eternity to get seated. If you have to tell the kids to stop hitting each other one more time…oh thank God, the table is ready. You go through the the regular dinner time motions (begging people to eat, negotiating, threatening, listening to conversations entirely based around video games and tv shows you don’t even understand) all while feeling SUPER conscious of the fact that everyone in your immediate vicinity is childless. And annoyed with you. In fact, your pretty sure that one couple left before their drinks even came to the table. Whatever. Jerks.
You finish dinner and race home to the…main event.
I don’t feel like that needs further explanation.
You finally manage to get everyone into the car and wonder if these little heathans will ever sleep tonight after the copious amounts of candy they ate. Once you get home and make sure everyone is dreaming sweetly, you pass out promptly on the couch. If you’re lucky, you aren’t snoring. (You aren’t lucky.)
And I know what some of you are thinking: “Why not get someone to watch the kids?”
And you can do that, but let’s face it, you’re just going to spend the whole time talking about how much you miss them.